Yesterday I had the good fortune to be featured quite prominently within a local paper talking about being a finalist in Miss British Beauty Curve 2014. (You can find the link to the article here). The article itself is really nicely written and is so positive, I really couldn’t ask for a better piece to be put in. I was really nervous about how I was going to be written about, and what comments people would make but generally people have been so kind and supportive,its really been quite overwhelming.
Unfortunately, not everybody has been supportive. I was shown some comments online from some not so pleasant people who were basically saying I don’t deserve to win because I’m not curvy I’m fat.
I’m VERY aware I’m fat. I call myself fat all the time, it’s even in the title of this blog! To me fat isn’t something to be ashamed of, or something that makes me less of a person than anybody else. I’m just bigger than other people – so what? Some of the comments made were extremely rude and really nasty and it made me wonder WHY people feel the need to drag others down? Surely, as a community we should be boosting each other up, we should be promoting a positive outlook and teaching our younger generations that it’s okay to look different, it’s okay to be fat, thin, tall, short etc. We shouldn’t be looking at the unrealistic guidelines set out by the media, we shouldn’t constantly feel the need to be on diets and we shouldn’t be letting our children grow up thinking that there is something wrong with them because they don’t look like the heavily photo shopped and airbrushed images plastered absolutely everywhere.
I was told that I couldn’t truly be happy and that I am lying to myself. No. I am truly happy with myself and can honestly say that I am an absolute goddess. Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not being arrogant or big headed here, however I have spent years loathing my body, and not so long ago I realised that I am in fact beautiful and that I should celebrate my body as it is. Only then did I actually become truly happy. With my confidence growing I made true friends and met my wonderful fiancee Adam who stand by me and supports me and tells me I’m beautiful no matter what dress size I am. My friends have come together today and supported me and told me I am inspiring and beautiful and honestly this means so much to me. Massive shout out to Shauna, Fran & Miki for being excellent. You’re brilliant and I love you all.
Let us celebrate our bodies for what they are! They’re incredible things! They create life, they think of ways to revolutionise the world, they keep us warm at night and they fight off infections all on their own. My philosophy is that you never know what will happen in life. People will come and go, comments will be made – some forgotten and some kept with us for life. The only thing which will be constant in your life is your body – so why not love it for the beautiful and remarkable thing that it is!
I am going to try my hardest to win when I’m at nationals,and if I do, Lydia my crown will be dedicated to you.