I wasn’t going to post about this as I try to keep this blog about fashion, however some things need to be spoken about.
I don’t even know where to start with this one, because I am so appalled that humans can be so blatantly cruel to each other. I almost couldn’t believe that “fat shaming week” was a thing, then I remembered the boys who used to follow me home from school hitting me with pieces of wood, the girls who would grab handfuls of my hair when I walked past them, teachers turning a blind eye to other kids calling me a “fat little cunt” as I walked into the room and then punishing me when I retaliated. Fat shaming doesn’t need a week. I have been fat shamed by strangers, family and friends for all of my life. I have always been the “fat friend” who was always there like a human punching bag when somebody needed a pick me up. I’m sorry to sound very woe is me, but those were my teenage years! For years I contemplated killing myself, utterly hating the person who I saw in the mirror every time I looked into it. I would sit on the bus to school and plan my own funeral, I would even picture it in my mind. And you know, this is all down to OTHER people. This wasn’t me bullying myself, holding penknives to my own throat, sending nasty hate messages to myself – this was other human beings who never had the RIGHT to impact my life in the way that they did. They broke me..and for what reason? Because I carried more weight? Because I was a few dress sizes bigger than them and listened to different music? I’ll never ever understand why people treat me the way that they did, and I’ll never ever forgive them for it.
I was so low..and then out of nowhere, I found a website called Tumblr which changed my life. There was girls and boys on there that challenged the “norm” and said that all bodies are beautiful regardless of shape, size, gender, age, background or lifestyle and I was hooked. And slowly, I stripped away years and years of scar tissue and baggage that I carried around with me and I became one of those girls. I became an inspiration to others, receiving constant emails and messages saying I’d helped changed their lives and how glad they were to find me and it felt amazing. I started to truly love and respect myself for the first time in my life. I stopped wearing black shapeless clothing, I began experimenting with clothes – the colours, cuts and styles which I’d never even dreamed of wearing before! Fashion and clothing soon became my armor and a way of expressing myself – after years of wanting to be invisible I FINALLY wanted people to look at me and notice me, and why shouldn’t they?
I am a beautiful, young, passionate, kind and happy 22 year old woman with the world at her feet and nothing to be ashamed of. So what if I have a big belly, chunky arms and more than one chin? I’m gorgeous, and if i was a size 6 or a size 60 I would still be gorgeous. I still get so many body snarking comments from people online, strangers on the street and nights out but nobody can destroy this wall of confidence which I have build around myself.
(Dress is from Primark which I altered)
I’d like to address some of the more disgusting Fat Shaming Week comments I saw online.
Lets be honest, Fat Shaming Week isn’t aimed at men is it? It was created by men to get hits on a website. But to set the record straight – I’m extremely attracted to fat men. Preferably with beards. Yum.
Who are you to say that larger people don’t eat right or work out? I certainly don’t eat crap food constantly. Me and my fiancee actually eat really well.
Honey, I’m a size 20 and a H cup. I know people who are a size 20 and a B cup. Breast size isn’t always linked to weight.
Never had a shortage of men wanting to take me on dates – happily engaged and I have an incredibly loving famil
Not everybody lives a completely 100% healthy life. What about smokers, drinkers, drug takers? I know slim people who eat 10 x worse than me and don’t move off their sofa.
I did see some examples of decent human beings!
Unfortunately not EVERYBODY is beautiful. Those who body police and bully others are just UGLY.
I loved this lady’s message.
There was so many tweets/comments online that I overlooked a lot of them! I was shocked by how many women were making cruel comments about other women – surely we should come together in the face of bullying? Obviously some women don’t feel this way and I pity them. Fat shaming to me is despicable, as is any body snarking! If anybody has been upset or affected by Fat Shaming Week, contact me and we can chat!